What is a “Sex Addict”

Living with a self-proclaimed “Sex Addict” opened my eyes to the world of sex addiction

HKB
8 min readAug 4, 2020
Photo by Sonny Ravesteijn on Unsplash

Background on My Journey

My journey began when I was 21 years-old. Fresh faced kid, almost out of college, with a banal experience with dating, sex, and with men in general, as I didn’t have my first teenage romantic fling until 18 years of age, (this consisted of a handful of times making-out).

After that, my heart was a little bit broken. I found out the fling, (who I considered my first boyfriend — back then), was already dating other girls about one week after I went back home. Joke is on him, he knocked-up a lady shortly after that and became a baby-daddy. C’est la vie!

So, let’s really begin the story.

I was 21-years old, he was 24 at the time. It was a very hot end-of-spring night. We were at a Mediterranean restaurant by day, bar/club by night. He asked me to dance, asked me for my number, first date a week later, and the rest is history.

We marry a year-and-a-half later — kind of rushed, I know, but hey, naive me, got pregnant, even with protection and birth control.

After 7 years of marriage (2015), he admits to me he has “a problem”, he just “couldn’t help himself”, he has been…

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HKB

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